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Home Making and car maintenance

Last week I read Jonny's post on the book Home Making which was followed with a post titled The Wedded Life containing many quotes from the book. I noted that it included some thoughts for those considering whether or not to get married.

As a result of reading Jonny's posts I was reminded that I posess a copy of Home Making. I decided to take it with me when I visited Dave, as I wanted to see what he thought of it.

I decided to read it to him while he changed the oil in his car, which seemed apt considering one of Jonny's pearls of advice which was backed up by a quote from Home Making:

For those wives that have no interest in motorsport, or never come to the back shed when asked: "No marriage is complete which does not unite and blend the wedded lives at every point. This can be secured only by making every interest common to both. Let both hearts throb with the same joy and share each pang of sorrow."

It was a very funny experience, reading a book filled with flowery language while my boyfriend worked under his car. He periodically assured me that he was listening, as he walked back and forth to collect things he needed.

Dave lives in a flat at the house of our mutual friends the Downes family. The comedy of our evening was added too when the husband and two sons of this family arrived outside the flat bearing a couch. They were on the way to the shed, but paused for a few moments to place the couch down under a tree and listen to Home Making.

You probably had to be there to find this funny, but I still had to share the way blogging remined me of a book and then made my life much funnier last week!

It turned out that Home Making does not contain much that is directly addressed to those considering marriage. The central advice was to give it serious thought before committing to marriage. The author also advised that those who were not ready to die to self were not ready to marry.

I do recommend the book, and I hope to post more about it in future. It reinforces the fact that love is expressed in many actions, seemingly small, needs to be worked at in all relationships in the home.

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Loving the church

Today I enjoyed reading two posts that are an encouragement to love God's people more.

In last week's Thursday of Thankfulness post, Lydia wrote about being grateful for church leaders and praying for them often.

Susan wrote about putting on grace tinted spectacles as we look at other Christians.

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Greed and simplicity

Last week I read several blog posts related to money and lifestyle that I have been thinking about. Phil's wrote about those who will not inherit the kingdom. He shares a few thoughts on a passage that states that those who are guilty of various sins, including greed, will not inherit God's kingdom. I assume this is limited to those who continue in these sins unrepentantly.

Reading this made me think again about how I find greed difficult to define. Is it wanting more than we have or more than we need? Is it a willingnes to take money from the poor and oppress others in order to do so? Is it an excessive focus on money? If we are to discern who is part of the kingdom and who is not, we need to be able to accurately discern the habits and attitudes that indicate greed.

I am inclined to think that greed is an excessive focus on money and things, a constant emphasis on having more. It is fine to want things, even things we don't need. It is part of being human to love creativity and beauty. Things that are beautiful but not necessary for survival, like my nativity scene, are an expression of this God-given aspect of our humanity. However, all our desires for such things must be put in their proper place. I knew I wanted a nativity scene, but I did not make it the focus of my life and feel constantly grumpy because I didn't have one!

I enjoyed Beth's recent post on money too, Living Richly. Beth asks the questions: "Is it okay to be a Christian and be wealthy? Or is this just a modern American idea, where materialism has wrongly been infused into the Christian culture?" Beth presents a balanced approach to this issue, explaining the dangers of wealth as well as the fact that it is not wrong to be wealthy.

I also enjoyed following the links Ashley provided on her post on The Simple Life. When I have time to read more, I want to learn more about living simply. I especially enjoyed Sallie's article Simplifying Choices. Sallie begins her article with these thoughts: "When someone becomes convinced that they need to simplify their life, it can be overwhelming. There are usually a lot of areas out of whack whether they be financial, time commitments, relationships, work requirements, material possessions, etc. In each of these areas you have to do some serious evaluating. More of what? Less of what? What comes first? What can wait? How do I do this without driving myself and my family crazy? " Sallie encourages readers to consider what glorifies God, what fits with their family, and what will enable them to fulfill God's best for their lives.

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The desires of our hearts

This Thursday I'd like to express thankfulness that we serve a God who delights in giving us the desires of our hearts (Psalm 37). Yesterday my friend Felicity came to visit, bearing a gift! When I opened it I was amazed at her generosity . . . and amazed that I had received just what I wanted. I have been thinking that it would be lovely to have a nativity scene, and had expressed this to several friends while Felicity was away for a few weeks in New Zealand. Little did I know that Felicity had bought me this lovely nativity scene while she was there!


I kept looking at it thinking "I can't believe she got me that! Wow!". I realise this heart's desire of mine was, in the larger picture, a small one! However, I also know that God is sovereign over even these small details of my life. This glimpse of his kindness, given to me through the kindness of a good friend, reminded me that he does give us the desires of our hearts . . . sometimes in the little things as well as the big ones!

I know that God does not always give us what we want, and I have written a lot about this in my posts about suffering. However, I also need to remember that he often does give us what we desire and even more than we asked for. No matter what is happening, we can take comfort in his sovereign care. All things, even the small ones, are under his control. Therefore it is to him we can cry out for assistance in our trials, small and large, because he can offer real help. It is also our Good Shepherd who deserves thanks when we receive the small desires of our hearts.

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Happy engagement

On Friday I was excited to be able to attend Mike and Christine's engagement BBQ. It felt surreal to meet Christine, much talked about on blogs and away from them, in person. I can tell you she is really real. Others were also interested in the Mike and Christine story . . .


I also saw another important blogger at the BBQ as well. There seemed to be lots of bloggers there. Christine told me that someone asked her seriously if non-bloggers were allowed to attend! Here is John . . .


I caught him just as he saw me and exclaimed "Sherrin!". I like this picture! I figured that since John never puts pictures of himself on his blog I'd better take it upon myself to let you know what he looks like! John told me that Jessie said "hello". This temporarily threw me. "What! Where did you see her!". I was brought down to earth when he told me she said this via a comment on a blog. "Oh, that is OK!" John is also coming for dinner tomorrow night, along with some of the unusual games he featured on his blog earlier this year. Our paths also crossed yesterday when we indulged our mutual interest in civil war history by watching a 1 and a half hour documentary, along with John's brother, at the house of an elder of one of the Presbyterian churches in Hobart. I felt that I must be a very odd girl to be sitting there watching war documentaries with three men, but moving back to the point of this post . . .

Since I thought some jealous people might dispute the fact that I have met Christine, I made sure I asked for a picture with her. I felt like a dwarf when I looked at myself next to her! Christine seems like a great lady, and I look forward to getting to know her more in future.

Dave kindly accompanied me to this very blogger-filled occasion, and stayed around for many blog-filled conversations, even though he is not quite so enthusiastic about blogs as I am! He is happy for Mike and Christine, even though they did meet through blogs.

Others have also written about this important occasion on their blogs: see Jonny and Mike.

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South Africa, here I come!

This time in three weeks I will be in South Africa. I am excited about being able to go and visit Dave's country, and his family and friends. We will be away for two weeks, leaving Australia on the 4th of January. I don't know how much blogging I'll be getting done during our time away, if any.

Africa is one of those places I have dreamed about visiting in the most-far-fetched dreams category! As a single woman, it would be very unwise for me to visit Africa on my own due to the many dangers there. I also never imagined, before I met Dave, that I'd do something like this with my "boyfriend". To my mind it would have bordered on inappropriate.

So it is with some surprise, and lots of excitement, that I find myself booked on a plane to Africa on the 4th. As I have mentioned in my post Officially unsingle, Dave and I see the object of our relationship as considering whether or not we will get married. It is now over ten weeks since we started out on this journey, and that is still the aim!

In considering marriage, we both feel that it is important for me to be able to see Dave's country and meet his family and friends. Dave does not plan to move back to South Africa, as the country has many problems related to unwise governance and crime. He also loves Australia, and Tasmania particularly. However, it is still his country and who knows what will happen in future! He may well end up back there. I need to consider whether it is a place I could live if that did come about.

We feel very blessed to be able to make this trip at this early stage of our relationship. We will be staying with Dave's friends for most of our time there. I am looking forward to experiencing Africa, and meeting those who supported and loved Dave long before I ever met him. It will be good for Dave to be able to introduce me to the people who are important in his life, as so far in our relationship it has almost entirely been a matter of me introducing Dave to my family and friends.

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Thankful for beginnings and endings

Yesterday was my last day teaching the ABCs class at the Christian school where I have worked this year. I have thankfully succeeded in teaching all four of my charges to read simple books, write every letter of the alphabet, and stand in lines. I will leave it up to the next teacher to help them perfect the art of leaving spaces between words and bringing in their posessions from the playground when the bell goes. I tried this year, but I am sorry to say that much improvement in some students' behaviour is still required.

The last day of school also happened to be my fortnightly day to take staff devotions. Here are some of the points I shared.

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Christ is the one who "opens and no one shuts, and shuts and no one opens" (Rev. 3:7). He is also the beginning and the end. He has existed since before the world came into being, and he will still be there when it is gone. It is a comfort to know that God controls all beginnings and endings. Sometimes things being wonderfully and end in ways we do not desire, and that hurt us deeply. At other times we begin something that seems hard and it turns out to be a huge blessing. We cannot tell what our beginnings and endings will be. We do not know what will come to us in the next year, but we do know the one who controls what will happen. It is comforting and confidence building to consider the unchanging character of God. He controls all for our good and His glory. As John 3:30 says, "He must increase, but I must decrease".

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During staff devotions we also prayed, as we always do. This has been a constant point of encouragement to me this year, as we come before God together and place our confidence in him.

Yesterday morning we also had a party for all the primary school children. Before we ate each person in the room shared something they were thankful for about the year. It was nice that so many of them were thankful for their teachers :). I shared that I was thankful for my year at the school, for the blessing of knowing the children and staff, and for the memories I will carry away with me. I am thankful for many specific things I didn't mention: the hand of a child holding mine as we walk around the oval, seeing the children grow in their understanding of the gospel and of God, learning about how to teach, having my own classroom to put up displays in, making friends, and growing flowers in the courtyard outside. I see the job as an answered prayer. Even the courage to take the job came from God, I believe. I have not had much confidence in my ability to work since I had some very bad experiences with my back pain in previous jobs. It has been wonderful to realise that there are some jobs that are manageable for me. The staff have been extremely considerate of my difficulties as well.

However, as I complete this year I am also grateful that my time working at the school has come to an end. At times it has been difficult to keep on going with a lot of back and leg pain. It has also been challenging to board away from home in a place that is not really my "home". It is someone else's home, with someone else's things. While I am very grateful for the kindness of the lady who allowed me to live there, and I see her kindness as an answered prayer, I would not like to live in similar circumstances again. Due to the fact that my "home" was two and a half hours away from my work this year, I often made the two and a half hour bus ride back home to visit my family and friends. This was a constant strain of packing and unpacking and effectively living in two places. It will be lovely to be able to avoid that next year! I might even be able to put my suitcase away in the cupboard, rather than having it constantly reside on the floor of whichever room I am staying in at the time.

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Esther's birthday party

I have found that Lydia's Thursdays of Thankfulness initiative has helped me to focus more upon being thankful. This week I can think of lots and lots of things to share, but I will not have time for all of them. I am very thankful for a happy time at my niece Esther's birthday party on December 2. Esther turned three. It was fun to watch her enjoying herself. What more could any little girl want than a grandma and a mummy to sing, a daddy to pray, and two new brothers to cuddle, and a dog cake, . . .


What more could Aunty Sherrin want than two baby boys to cuddle at once, and a little girl to grab my knee, and . . .


a boyfriend who likes holding babies.

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Do not worry

This week I feel thankful for God's care. I have recently been thinking about this a lot. It is amazing that the God of the universe cares about our tiny worries and gives us the answers to them. God's care is one of the basic facts of the Christian faith, and yet often I fail to grasp the wonder and reality of it.

Matthew 12 was one of the passages in my Bible reading plan recently. I was blessed as I read these familiar verses. God tells us that we should not worry about anything, because God cares even for the lilies and the birds and he will also provide for us.

25 And which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? 26 If you then are not able to do the least, why are you anxious for the rest? 27

29 “And do not seek what you should eat or what you should drink, nor have an anxious mind. 30 For all these things the nations of the world seek after, and your Father knows that you need these things. 31 But seek the kingdom of God, and all these things shall be added to you.

God cares about our anxious minds, and he gives us the answer to them. Trust me, he reminds us! God has commanded us not to allow the heaviness of cares to oppress us, because he carries our cares for us. The burdens he gives us are light. If we are carrying heavy burdens they are not from him. They are usually a result of our sinful lack of trut in him.

Trusting in God and forsaking anxiety is part of being humble. C.J. Mahaney points out in Humility: True Greatness that in 1 Peter 5:6-7, God first tells us to be humble and then teaches us how: "casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you." C.J. argues that if we are truly humble we will be "genuinely care free" even in the midst of our responsibilities.

"Where there's worry, where there's anxiousness, pride is at the root of it. When I am experiencing anxiety, the root issue is that I'm trying to be self-sufficient."

I am deeply grateful to serve a God who cares. He cares to address the damage to our lives that worry brings. I am happy that he teaches us that while worry is both useless and sinful, there is something effective we can do instead. We can pray. The Bible repeats many times that God loves to answer prayer. When I worry instead of praying, I am expressing distrust in God through my actions. It is a blessing to be reminded through God's word that I can trust him.

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Mike and Christine forever

I am thrilled that my friend Mike's experiment in internet dating has worked out extremely successfully! Mike went to the USA in November to meet Christine, and they are now engaged! He was so sure about the relationship that he proposed three days after arriving in the USA. As I mentioned in this post, I had some misgivings about their relationship. However, I am now delighted that God is working in their lives to make them both so happy! Last week at church I plied Mike with nosy questions, and he obligingly answered all of them! How did you propose? Did you feel like you were going to fall over when you met her? . . .

Now Christine is coming to visit Tasmania, in just a few days! I am very excited about meeting her. She will be the first person I will meet in "real life" whom I have previously only known through blogging. Today I enjoyed reading Christine's story of her time with Mike in the USA. I appreciated the fact that both Christine and Mike sought her parent's approval to marry.

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Cake making


On the weekend I made a cake for my niece Esther's third birthday. I enjoyed the experience of doing something new, as I have never made child's birthday cake before. In this picture, the dog is in the process of being created. If I get my wish of being a Mum, I may someday be an expert at making such things! Esther found the dog cake very funny, and enjoyed it a lot. Dog cake, ha, ha, ha, ha. Her Daddy took the head to work to share with his workmates, and Esther was complaining that Daddy "took dog's nose to work".

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Blogging in 3D?

In last Monday's The Australian I was interested to read the article "Internet giants take on battle for Earth in 3D" (November 27, 2006, page 3). It explained how "Two internet giants have embarked on a race to become the first 3D cartographers of the world".

"As the rival schemes develop, buildings will become interactive, enabling users to virtually enter them, obtain information, buy goods inside and talk to other cyber visitors. Eventually, landscapes could be included."

"The move may bring about a transformation in how people use the internet. Instead of relying on traditional search engines, in which they enter words into boxes on screen, users would be able to navigate the world using a virtual replica."

This made me wonder about the future of blogging. Will we one day virtually enter one anothers houses and wander around having a chat?

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Submission and the Fall

Many issues related to the role of women were raised in the comments section of my Strong women post. My comments in response were not comprehensive, due to time constraints. I wrote that I would at some point write more extensively on these topics in blog posts. This could take me a long time, as time constraints on writing are still a reality! Right now I want to refer you to a good article on the fact that God's order in male and female relationships was instituted even before the fall. In the post
"Submission - Does It Precede The Fall?" Tim Challies explains this point: "the fact that women are to submit to their husbands is not merely the product of the Fall of the human race into sin, but is a product of God's creation. Even if sin had never entered the world, a wife would still be expected to submit to her husband." I think he demonstrates this point well, summarising the points from Wayne Grudem's book "Evangelical Feminism and Biblical Truth".

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Testimonies

This Thursday I'd like to give thanks for testimonies. Since last Wednesday, I have been blessed to hear four testimonies of God's work.

On Wednesday last week a lady who had taken Bibles to China came to the school where I work to share her experiences with the primary aged children. Her enthusiasm for the people of China and her passionate expression of her experiences held their attention for nearly an hour and a half! On that day I was struggling with worry about the outcome of my compensation case (the outcome ended up being another cause for thanks). It was a blessing to be re-focused on God and upon those in more difficult circumstances than myself, and it helped me to realise anew how much I have been given. I especially enjoyed her account of her visit to a Chinese woman who lived in poor conditions with a dirt floor. This woman welcomed her with great joy and affection, attempting to communicate although she did not know english. She shared her few possessions with her, including three apples from her winter store. Such examples of generosity are always an inspiration!

A few days later I heard the testimonies of two Chinese women at a World Prayer Night. It was good to hear first hand from those who have experienced Chinese rule. One woman shared how her parents and other close relatives were ardent communists. She also shared about devoted Christian women in Malaysia helped her to come to know Christ. This was an inspiration to love people in a self sacrificing way. Both woman shared struggles in their Christian lives which were a reminder that we can all face similar struggles no matter which country we come from!

At church on Sunday a woman was baptised. She shared her life experiences, which included many traumatic events such as rape, divorce, prostitution and having to place her children in foster care. She had even conceived as a result of rape and given the child up for adoption. It was a blessing that she was willing to be so open about her life. It is good for Christians to be reminded of what we are saved from through God's grace, and that God's kingdom is open to all who repent and believe. It was a reminder of God's power to save.

I appreciate it that God moved these women's hearts to share about his work in their lives. Their testimonies were a challenge to me to be more open about what God has done in my life, so that others can be encouraged. I don't like to go around talking to much about past events, or to give unnecessary details, yet I also need to be open to God leading me to share. We all need to be willing to share the power of God in our lives, both in conversion and afterwards, so that others can give thanks with us.

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Wild echidna encounter

Those of you who enjoyed my echidna encounterwill also enjoy Phil's post on a wild echidna. Natasha, who attended my school and now lives in the USA, pointed out for the benefit of American readers that echidna is pronounced e-kid-na.

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Feminine dress according to Susan

A couple of weeks ago I enjoyed Susan's post on dress. "No Excellencies for the Daughters of Abraham?" explores the way dress should be both modest and attractive.

Here is are some of Susan's comments:

. . . when female apparel is analyzed and wittled down to a list of "do's and don't's," then we've lost the real issue. It shouldn't be a matter of measuring our hemlines or making hard-and-fast rules such as "skirts are the only legitimate apparel for women." The real issue is the heart. How does this manifest itself? In different ways for different women. How was that for ambiguous :)?

. . . We Christian women are presented with a false dichotomy: attractive, seductive clothing or frumpy, modest clothing. It seems we have to choose between beauty or conviction.

Or do we?

Read the whole of Susan's Susan's post to find out her answer!

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Pictures of the twins




Esther is a doting little mummy to them! Jeriah is the one with darker hair.

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For those of you who were impressed with my niece Esther's photography skills as evidenced in one of the photos in this post, I decided it would be a good idea to post one of her other efforts taken on the same day. She is a budding professional at less than three years of age . . .


Here is another picture of Dave and I, this time at Brickendon near Launceston. This historic farm was beautiful with the hawthorn hedges blooming. The self timer on Dave's camera took this one for us!

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God's kindness during my legal case

I would like to thank those of you who prayed for me with regard to the compensation decisions I mentioned here.

It has been a difficult time for me, and I have prayed a lot in the midst of it. I am relieved, excited and grateful to report that my legal case is now settled. I am grateful to God for giving me the courage to take a small risk which resulted in a better outcome. One of the many trials that resulted from my injuries on the 9th of July 1999 is now over! This is an enourmous blessing. I am grateful that God has sustained me through the many medical appointments, legal appointments, decisions, and stresses of the compensation process. Mum and I have been praying all the way. There were many times when the knowledge that we had a marvelous heavenly inheritance to look forward to, no matter what the outcome of my case was, gave us great comfort and encouragement. I am grateful to serve a God who gives us a sure a certain hope of those things which will never pass away. One day last week, when I was lying in bed feeling burdened and stressed about my decision, God reminded me of one of my memory verses:

Lift up your eyes to the heavens,
And look to the earth beneath.
For the heavens will vanish away like smoke,
The earth will grow old like a garment,
And those who dwell in it will die in like manner;
But my salvation will be forever,
And my righteousness will not be abolished.
Isaiah 51:6

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Before birth

I met my twin nephews, Jeriah and Caleb, last night. They are even more loveable than I anticipated :). I am not yet able to upload photos of them. In the meantime, I thought it would be good to share a few pregnancy pictures. Ever since my sister found out she was having twins, her example of an uncomplaining and positive attitude have been an inspiration to me. I admire her even more after hearing some of what she went through with the birth. Her perseverence in choosing a natural birth is amazing, especially since the doctors were advising her during the birth to have an epidural and later a caesarean when the second baby was breech.

All these pictures were taken two and a half weeks before the birth.


Here I am with my sister, who usually weighs about as much as I do!

Janelle with her husband Lyndon.

Janelle and Esther.

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Practising thankfulness

This post was written to be included in Lydia's Thursdays of Thankfulness.

Today I have exciting events to be thankful for! Yesterday my twin nephews Jeriah and Caleb were born. My two most pressing questions have been answered. I now know the answer to "is there two boys, two girls, or a boy and a girl": two boys! I also know their names, which I have been anticipating a lot. I know that these names will be precious to me for the rest of my life, as I enjoy my nephews and pray for them in the years ahead.

Some of our
prayers were answered with regard to the birth, as Janelle did not have to be induced or have a caesarean. We expected the twins to be born on Tuesday, as Janelle was due to be induced that day, but the hospital was too busy and she could not go until Wednesday. Then she did not need an induction done, because after the doctor broke the waters she went into labour. It is wonderful that she was able to have as natural a birth as possible. The twins are very healthy, and I look forward to meeting them tonight or tomorrow.

On the theme of thankfulness, I also want to share from C.J. Mahaney's book Humility: True Greatness. This book has been a great blessing to me this year. I am now reading it for the third time. Like most people, I learn the lessons of humility slowly and I need frequent reminders.

C.J. Mahaney recommends several practices that he believes can assist us in our quest to be humble. One of these is gratefulness. I enjoyed this quote that he used to illustrate the benefits of thankfulness:

"Thankfulness is a soil on which pride does not easily grow." Michael Ramsey.

C.J. emphasises that it is not only right and beneficial to be grateful, it is also wrong not to be grateful. "An ungrateful person is a proud person. If I'm ungrateful, I'm arrogant. And if I'm arrogant, I need to remember God doesn't sympathize with me in that arrogance; He is opposed to the proud."

C.J. recommends that we begin each day expressing gratefulness to God. He says, "I want to greet my Saviour with gratitude, not grumbling."

I was also inspired at this quote C.J. used about Matthew Henry: "he was an alert and thankful observer of answered prayer." This was always "sweetening his spirit, and he would often invite others to join him in giving thanks."

I would love to be a person who exibits this kind of sweet, thankful attitude toward God. As C.J. says, each day we can observe "countless indications of His provision, His presence, His kindness, His grace?" Complaining characterises my attitude more often than thankfulness does, and I often ask God to change this and to help me to be more thankful.

C.J. points out the central reason why we should be grateful: "whatever grace we receive from God is so much more than we're worthy of, and indescribably better than the hell we all deserve."

Recently I was reading Luke 6:35, and I was deeply touched that we serve a Most High God who is "kind to the unthankful and evil". I am included in that category, as I am often unthankful and my human nature is evil. Yet in the midst of this I can rely upon the kindness of God, and trust that he is transforming me into a person who praises him in every circumstance.

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Taking note of history

History must be our deliverer not only from the undue influence of other times, but from the undue influence of our own, from the tyranny of the environment and the pressure of the air we breath. Lord Acton.

I have loved this quote for a long time. The first part reminds me of our tendancy to repeat the mistakes of other times. Knowing history can help us not to do this, and in doing so it can deliver us from the undue influence of these times. As we study history, we can see the reasons why people did things and the way we could be tempted to do the same things. The study of history can also enable us to see how things we take for granted now are not the "way things have always been", they are a product of historical events. In this way, seeing how current situations are a product of history can liberate us to challenge "the way things are" are cast off historical influences that are not good. This ties in with the meaning of the second part of the quote.

I love the second part of the quote even more than the first. I often realise how much my own time and environment influence me. To some extent this is inevitable. However, it is important to minimise how much we allow the time we live in to dictate our choices. I often feel disturbed when I hear Christians speak harshly against their brethren who lived in other times and made mistakes. I feel disturbed because I think their comments are short-sighted and often show a lack of awareness of how we do the same thing.

For example, the way Christians treated Australian indigenous people was at times less than ideal and at times plainly abusive. I think we should condemn without hesitation the things that were done. However, that is different to condeming the people who did them and saying that these people could not have been Christians. In cases of clear abuse which were not repented of, it is fair to question the person's salvation. We are told to evaluate the fruit of someone's profession, and we can make some judgements based upon this. However, in many cases what the Christians did came out of a mistaken attempts to help aboriginal people and bring the gospel to them. Many of their mistaken attempts could have been averted if they had a better understanding of scripture and they had taken the trouble to apply the Bible instead of the wisdom of their times. It is worthwhile to note this. However, I am disturbed when people condemn these Christians while they continue to assume that it is fine to go along with current wisdom.

As Greg Price wrote in his article "Taking moral equivalence to an extreme" (The Australian November 2, 2006), it is easy to patronise and condemn those who acted in the past. He wrote about the "stolen generation" of aboriginal children who were removed from their parents (sometimes by Christians). This was done in an attempt to help them, and it was often done on a racist basis. "Patronising the past also neatly shifts the spotlight. Perhaps Australians of the '40s or '50s should not have removed children from their communities. But is the present hands-off approach any better? Where's the moral advantage in leaving Aboriginal children in communities degrated by alcoholish, petrol sniffing, domestic violence, and sexual abuse? It's much easier to apologise for something that happened 50 years ago than come up with a policy solution to an existing problem."

Price's last sentence says exactly what I feel. It is easy to stand on the sidelinse and criticise people who tried their hardest to act rightly. It is much harder to consider how we should evaluate the times in which we live and how we can solve current problems. Today I read Scott Brown on this topic, in a post that exposes the way we adopt worldly methods to reach youth and therefore we fail. He also did a post on Al Mohler's wisdom on the education of children. Mohler says in part: “I don't think God calls upon Christian parents to put our children in the schools as guinea pigs as salt and light. I'll be honest. I just don't think that at all is the biblical vision. The public schools are an innovation. They are not a fact of nature."

I can think of lots of other areas where what is currently popular or expedient plays a large part in the decisions of Christians. One example is the way Christian couples choose to use hormonal birth control even if they know the facts about how it can act to terminate human life, because it is easiest and they don't want children right now. It is easy to go with the flow and assume that it is fine to do whatever seems expedient or current without evaluating what the Bible has to say. I hope that I extend grace to other Christians who make decisions based on the times in which they live, or who apply the Bible differently to how I do. I also want to extend the same grace to those who lived long before me.

However, in the midst of praying for a gracious attitude I also remind myself that history can be "our deliverer not only from the undue influence of other times, but from the undue influence of our own, from the tyranny of the environment and the pressure of the air we breath." I don't want to blunder along, with the time I live in dictating my decisions. Whenever I think about Christians in the past, I do not grimace as much at their mistakes as I do at my own capacity to buy into the type of thinking that created their mistakes. I know there must be many areas where I do adopt unbiblical ways of thinking. As I learn more about history, I hope that I can see that the way things are done now is often not the only way or the best way. I can also gain a vision for how to live differently. Christians in the past often understood and applied scripture better than we do today, and I can learn from that. God has placed each of us in the time in which we live. By God's grace, I hope to be granted insight on how to live in the most biblical way possible to achieve his purposes in this time.

21 November - I thought I'd quickly note some of the other things that I believe we need to think about in terms of the Bible rather than current thinking: the roles of men and women, methods of poverty relief, illegitimacy, business practices, entertainment and amusement choices, consumerism, and the law. I would enjoy hearing from readers who can share the issues they have thought about in relation to the difference between current practices and biblical thinking.

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Twins to arrive tomorrow!

My sister's twins seem to like staying put! However, tomorrow they will be forced to emerge. Janelle is now 38 weeks pregnant and each twin weights seven pounds! It is time for them to stop sharing such a small space! I am looking forward to finally having the question answered: two boys, two girls, or a boy and a girl? Their names are also an item of much interest for me. I plan to see them for the first time on Thursday night or on Friday, when I return to Hobart after working this week. My sister goes into hospital for the labour to be induced at about the same time I need to leave for work tomorrow, and I have no doubt that my thoughts will turn to her often as the day passes. I am continuing to pray that she will be able to deliver them without the need for a caesarean.

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Abortion stories

Last night I watched a TV show on abortion. I often avoid watching these shows, because they tend to make me upset. In fact, I usually avoid TV altogether! The last time I sat down to watch a TV show was about two months ago with my friend Ruth. Her sister is expecting twins as well, and the show was about identical twins.

The program I watched last night was well made. Those who shared their experiences were presented against a black background, with light just on their faces and torsos. Five women and one man were featured. The interviewer did not appear in the documentary at all: he or she was invisible and silent. This gave the effect of being confronted simply with the person who was sharing. The testimonies were interspersed briefly with scenes of cityscapes underneath a dark sky, and occasionally with other images such as children enjoying swings. White text on a black background presented small amounts of information that gave the context for what the person said next.

Although I have heard that the maker of the documentary is pro-life, this was not overt. There were testimonies from those who regretted and repented of abortion, and from those who justified their decisions or were at peace with them.

I appreciated the way the documentary maker had presented each person in the context of other aspects of their lives. For example, it is hard to demonise a woman who feels no guilt for having two abortions for financial and career reasons when we know she is also a loving wife and devoted grandmother. To be pro-life, yet still present people we disagree with in the fulness of their humanity and without counter argument is courageous and powerful. People who have abortions are people just like you and I, who are deceived into thinking abortion is the best or only solution. Many of them are the sort of people you'd enjoy talking to at a dinner party.

Despite the fact that the interviewer's position was not overt, I think a strong pro-life perspective came out. One woman strongly justified her abortion, yet she is now childless at 45. Her tears over her childlessness spoke volumes for the emptiness of justifying her choice to kill the only child she will ever have. In another testimony, a woman who felt no guilt for her abortion said something that I found deeply profound. I do not remember her exact words, but the essence was that having a child is about relinquishing control and in doing so allowing life to flourish.

For me, the documentary brought to mind again ideas I have thought much about already. I was grateful to be able to discuss some of these ideas with Dave over the phone after watching it.

The more stories of abortion I hear, the more convinced I am that this will not end unless people choose not to enter sexual relationships where they are completely unprepared to have a child. If you are not ready to have a child, you are not ready to get intimate. A logical deducation of this is that if you are not ready to have a child, you are not ready to get married. In Australia, married women as well as single women have abortions in large numbers. If abortions are to reduce, people at least need to have a viable back up plan if their plan number one (no baby right now) does not work out. Otherwise they feel they cannot continue the pregnancy.

The debate over abortion is not really over whether or not the baby is indeed a baby. Those who justified their abortions knew they were justifying killing a person. They did not attempt to argue that what they did was anything other than killing, they argued that it was an OK form of killing.

When considering abortion, it is important to realise that we cannot make a judgement of what someone's quality of life will be. Those who justify abortion do so on the basis that the child would not have a good life if it was born. Several women mentioned that they did not want their child to suffer what they suffered. One mentioned poverty, another the lack of a stay-at-home-mother. The question that needs to be asked in these situations is "would you rather be dead?". I doubt their reply would be yes. We all suffer pain. Justifying abortion on the basis that the person would suffer makes us all candidates for termination. There is no way of planning everything out to avoid suffering.

There is no ideal, perfect time to have a baby. However, most people who have abortions do so on the basis that it is "not the right time". They hope to have a baby some day, just not now. The woman who is childless at 45 wanted specific things to happen before she would be "ready" to have a child, and in the end that time never came. In aiming for an ideal, she ended up with nothing. Usually, the ideal time is realted to financial circumstances. I find it ironic that in one of the richest cultures on earth, we feel we cannot afford children. In past generations, people had more children with less money.

Finally, in all this I am reminded of the gospel and I am aware of my own sin. In my pro-life efforts, I want to present the gospel of grace to hurting or deceived people. I still do not know how to do this well, but it is my desire. We should feel a deep compassion for those who are without God to turn to in circumstances of distress.

I am deeply grateful to serve a God who teaches us what is true and good. The Bible tells us that we do not have ultimate control over the womb, it is God who opens and closes it. Marriage is the relationship in which to pursue love and intimacy, and we are to avoid unwise and ungodly partnerships. Children are a blessing and a reward, and they are to be accepted with joy within marriage. Indeed, one of the reasons God created marriage is that he wants us to have them! Without God's revelation, I would not know these things. It is wonderful to serve a God who not only has a great plan for how things should work, but who graciously reaches down to save us from our sins and set us on the path to a flourishing life.

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Time to decide

I have a long running legal case for compensation from the Motor Accidents Insurance Board (MAIB) with regard to my injuries and subsequent chronic pain that I sustained in a car accident in 1999. I wrote about my car accident, and mentioned some of the aspects of being involved in a legal case, in my post 9/7/99 in the providence of God. All motorists are required to be insured with the MAIB, and each person pays hundreds of dollars each year to them on the understanding that they will be insured for any medical expenses and lost income that result from a car accident. My legal case has been ongoing for five and a half years. I am presently faced with important decisions about my case. I would appreciate your prayers as I seek God about what avenues to take.

Edited on November 20 - I decided I had perhaps included too much information about my case on the Internet. However, I do feel in great need of your prayers and I hope that you will continue to pray as I make decisions! One of the things I most need prayer for is that I will not take on heavy burdens, but I will rest in the sovereignty of God as I make the best decisions I can. I need to trust God as he guides me. I was blessed as I read James 1 this morning, a reminder of the truth of God's care for us and also of the truth that money is a passing matter.

2 My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. 4 But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For let not that man suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.

9 Let the lowly brother glory in his exaltation, 10 but the rich in his humiliation, because as a flower of the field he will pass away. 11 For no sooner has the sun risen with a burning heat than it withers the grass; its flower falls, and its beautiful appearance perishes. So the rich man also will fade away in his pursuits.

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Thursdays of Thankfulness

Recently Lydia introduced a new series to her blog. She has invited readers to contribute posts on what they are thankful for each Thursday. I think this is a great idea, and I am happy to have a snippet of time to participate this week. The Bible is full of instructions to give God the praise due to him, and provides us with many examples of people who were thankful. I have recently completed reading the Psalms again, which are full of examples of things to praise God for!

Here are two of my praise points:

1) I keep feeling grateful for Dave. I won't go on about it too much, lest this post become something approaching an online love letter (which I am sure Dave would not appreciate). However, I will write a brief list of some of the things I am thankful for about Dave: kindness, leadership, passion for God and the Bible, fun, respect, ease of conversation, intelligence, friendliness, diligence. I am sure I have missed out countless things - perhaps I'll share them next Thursday!

2) My job. I am very grateful that I have enjoyed this year at work, and that I have nearly completed it! There are now only four weeks to go. My year at work has been a big blessing for me, as I have had many struggles with work since my car accident seven and a half years ago. The children, the staff, and the skills I have learnt in teaching have all been a huge blessing.

My internet time has run out, so that will be it for me today on thankfulness! However, I hope to have more to share next week. Perhaps some of you will join in too, and I can enjoy reading your entries.

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The example of Jesus in prayer

I recently enjoyed dropping over to Mountain Musings during one of my all-to-short times on the computer during a break at school. Tom posted a long quote from Charles Spurgeon on Jesus' example in prayer. As Spurgeon says, "If ever one of woman born might have lived without prayer, it was our spotless, perfect Lord, and yet none was ever so much in supplication as he!". Yet Christ made a habit of fellowshiping with his Father. This is a reminded of how much more I need to make prayer a priority, at war as I am with sin. I often fail to have the victory, while Christ was always victorious. I need his power desperately, yet I often fail to spend time asking for it. I hope this quote will remind me to renew my commitment to concentrated prayer.

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Twins due to arrive any day

As my regular blog readers will know, my sister is having twins. Her babies are now due to arrive any day! Twins are induced at 38 weeks if they have not come before that, as it is not healthy for mother or babies if the pregnancy extends beyond that point. My sister is now 37 weeks. I have several prayer requests for the birth, in case any of you can spare Janelle a place on your prayer list! My sister is a midwife. She strongly prefers a natural birth, such as she had with her first child Esther. This is reflected in the prayer points.

* Please pray that Janelle will go into labour before she needs to be induced.

* Please pray that there will be no complications in the birth that would necessitate a caesarean.

* The first twin has its head down, but the second is breech. Please pray that the second turns well after the first comes out (it should have plenty of room!) so that Janelle does not have to have lots of pain killers while they turn it ( or a caesarean if they can't).

* Please pray that the many staff who will be attending this twin birth will be a blessing. It is not ideal to have so many (eight at last count) but my sister is going to a public hospital and does not have much choice in the matter.

I would have loved to post pictures of my sister, but unfortunately the compter where they are stored is refusing to allow me to connect to the internet! In two weeks, I should definitely be able to post pictures of two much loved babies!

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Learning from Titus

I love the book of Titus. It is packed with practical instructions for life. This means it is not a comfortable book. My personal life often does not reflect its commands. Many churches also do not emphasise or reflect its teaching. Yet the book of Titus also shows how far we have progressed. Titus 3:3: “For we ourselves were also once foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving various lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful and hating one another.” I identify with this description of what I once was! Likewise, many of my brothers and sisters once lived this way. Yet God miraculously intervened. He showed kindness and love (3:4). He saved us according to his mercy, “through the washing of regeneration and renewing of the Holy Spirit” not due to our works (3:5). God gave us abundance through Christ (3:6). Now we have been justified through grace and have an eternal hope (3:7). What a contrast with our former situation! Jesus Christ's sacrificial death on the cross for our sins has liberated us to walk in life, hope, and freedom.

In the light of the facts about what He has done for us, God tells us to obey his commands. Titus 3:18 “This is a faithful saying, and these things I want you to affirm constantly, that those who have believed in God should be careful to maintain good works.” We are not to be like those who profess to know God, but deny him through their disobedient works (1:16). Our liberation is not only a motivation to good works. It is also an event that reminds us of the power of God. If God is powerful enough to turn our lives around, he is surely able to help us complete the good works he requires. While as individuals and churches we do not yet put into action all the commands in this book, we have hope that God will bring it about.

I have been memorizing Titus 2:1-8. This segment of scripture gives instructions to Christians of various age groups. I hope this will help me to pray for others. I also want to obey verses 4 and 5. These verses teach that young women are to love their husbands, love their children, be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, and obedient to their husbands. As I have stated on my blog before, I believe these verses apply to all young women even if they are not yet married. If this is what God wants for us at a future date, it is worthwhile to begin preparing now! Obviously I can't yet love or obey my husband, but I can aim for some of the other goals. I often work on loving children, as I am with them nearly every day. As I memorized these verses, I realised that I did not even know what discreet meant! I consulted Macquarie's dictionary, and this is the definition it gave. Discreet: 1. wise or judicious in avoiding mistakes or faults; prudent; circumspect; cautious; not rash. 2. not given to careless talk; restrained. 3. not flamboyant; unobtrusive. I quickly realised I had a long way to go before I achieved that goal!

While I had the dictionary out, I was also inspired to look up the word homemaker. I love this definition: "one who creates and maintains a comfortable and welcoming ambience for the members of a household". This definition places the emphasis upon people, where it should be. God wants us to have confortable and happy homes. This would usually involve cleaning and cooking, or delegating it to someone else, but that is not the focus. The reason God wants women to be homemakers is that it blesses and serves others. It is possible to have a spotless yet unwelcoming home. All women can be homemakers no matter what their current work situation is. However, creating a welcoming home for our families and communities does take time and effort. This means that it is reasonable to conclude that at some times in our lives, particularly when there are young children at home, it will be necessary to cut back on paid work in order to fulfill this calling.

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5 weeks

Dave and I have now been officially unsingle for five weeks, so I thought it was time to post some more pictures of us!

The recent spate of anti-patriarchy comments on my blog prompted some rather tasteless jokes on my part. I do take the matter of Biblical roles and the task of defending scripture seriously, but sometimes I have to laugh or I'll cry! This photo was part of one of those jokes. This is supposed to be a dominating patriarchal pose, since Dave is standing, I am seated, and the child is the lowest of all :). However, a friend told me that the effect was not successful as we all look too happy! To be effective, Dave would need to look severe, I would need to look sad, and Esther should look cowed. No smiles please.


Esther spent her first ever night away from home the night before this picture was taken. She slept in my room, and gave me plenty of hugs in the early hours of the morning . . . but that is another story! I promised to take full responsibility for her overnight, and I am pleased to be able to say that I fulfilled my responsibilities!

The weekend before this, Dave came to visit me in Launceson. He brought me these beautiful roses . . .


I know Dave really does like me, because he not only drove 3 hours to see me, he also slept on a dreadful mattress that had to be placed in the dining room of the house where I board! Here we are . . .


We had a lovely weekend sight seeing, eating out, seeing my friends, talking, walking, reading praying, going to church . . . and generally enjoying each other's company. Dave is reading "The Hobbit" to me, which we both enjoy. We have also watched "Pride and Prejudice" (BBC version) together, during my school holidays. It will be Dave's turn to choose a movie next :)! He grew to like Pride and Prejudice, thankfully, as otherwise all those hours would have been torturous for him!

Two weeks ago when I was in Hobart, Dave helped me babysit my niece Esther. Esther likes Dave, although I don't think she quite knows how to give appropriate compliments yet. She told her mother she thought he was a "pretty boy". Here Dave is playing a game with her where she was rolled in a rug and then carried around.


On the same day, I tried to teach Esther to take pictures of us. This is one of the results . . .



It is not bad for a first effort!

I think that it is healthy that Dave and I spend a lot of time around other people, as well as time alone, and that we spend time in family contexts. This gives us a chance to get a more realistic picture of each other. Unfortunately Dave's family is far away in South Africa, so I have not yet met them. It is great that Dave enjoys spending time with my family.

I am grateful to God for five happy weeks, packed with lots of great memories.

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My Queensland family

Recently my mother and father went to Queensland to visit my brother and his family. I enjoyed seeing the many pictures that were sent back with them on a disk.

My brother's family . . .


The proud Grandma . . .

I was happy to see this picture of my sister-in-law with her daughter. I am glad my sister-in-law is able to enjoy clothing a baby in pink dresses after her two little boys!


My new niece, born in June, looks totally adorable. My parents said her behaviour is as good as her looks. I hope to meet her in the new year, whenever I have a chance to go to Queensland for a visit.

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Echidna encounter

At the end of September I was blessed to able to visit Platypus House with my friends Felicity and Dave. The platypus were difficult to photograph. However, at the same place there were some echidnas that were happy to sit still for us while they ate . . .



It was fun to watch their long tongues lap up their food!

We were able to touch the echidnas. I had never done this before.


Since my sitemeter tells me that many of my visitors come from the USA, I thought you would enjoy a glimpse of these Australian animals.

Baby echidnas and platypus are called "puggles". They hope to breed both at Platypus House.

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I'd rather live here

On my pink town post, Keziah provided a picture of a much nicer town painting idea in multicoloured hues. Keziah often uses great pictures on her blog. Thanks for posting the link to this site, Keziah. I still think the government should let people paint their properties whatever colour they like though! I am sure that most of my readers agree :)!

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Totally behind!

This week I have had very little Internet access. Most of my efforts to get online have been thwarted. Since I believe in providence, I trust this is all in the broader plan :). I have only read about two blog posts all week! Most of my limited internet time has been taken up with reading comments on my Strong women post. One respondant has been posting many long comments related to her beliefs about the roles of men and women, which are contrary to mine. I have had no time to give these a proper response. Later on I may be able to do some posts on the topics she has raised. However, I do not want to engage in long term debate. I have now put on comment moderation, as I do not like to have comments on my blog that teach falsely without having the time to reply. If any of you have time to reply to the comments that are already on this post, I would appreciate your input. I hope to have more time for blogging at some stage, but at the moment spending time with people in the offline world (such as Dave) is more important to me.

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Childcare as education

Recently a spokeswoman for one of Australia's largest political parties argued that "Governments should treat childcare as an educational right that gives children pre-literacy and pre-numeracy skills and not as welfare for parents" (The Australian, Monday October 23, 2006, page 5).

Labor childcare spokeswoman Tanya Pilbersek said childcare should not be viewed as "parental welfare or a workforce measure". Her statements were made in the context of arguing for greater government funding for childcare.

I find such statements frustrating because of their implications. There is nothing wrong with attempting to make childcare educational. If a child must be sent to an institution for many hours each day, I would hope that institution would impart something more than babysitting.

What I object to is that if Tanya Pilbersek's ideas become pervasive childcare will soon be viewed as a necessity for all children. Pilbersek argues that childcare "prepares them for school, and gives them the confidence to make friends and learn new skills."

I am sure that amongst some groups in society childcare is already seen as a necessary part of the development of healthy children. Such attitudes ignore the strong evidence that long hours of daycare in institutions negatively impacts upon children's development.

It is one thing to desire to provide quality care for those children who must be separated from their parents for many hours at a young age. It is another to advocate this separation as a necessary part of childhood. If Pilbersek's ideas become pervasive, full time motherhood will be seen as even more unnecessary. After all, couldn't the "experts" at the local childcare center do a better job at preparing the children for life than their own mother?

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A pink town

Monday's The Australian featured a tiny story in the "Wierd World" section that I thought my blog readers would enjoy. I especially thought of those of you who complained so much when my blog was pink. This story should make you very grateful you don't live in Aurangabad, India. Here is the story of that town:

In a bid to deter crime, authorities have painted the town pink. Aurangabad is the centre of a Maoist insurgency and the town's leaders hope that by painting all buildings bright pink, they will lift morale among the residents. The town's subdivision officer, Arvind Kumar Singh, said: "What better colour than pink, which symbolises good mood, soothing sight and good feelings." All municipal buildings have been painted, and about 80 per cent of private homes. The remainder are expected to be completed this week.

Arvind Kumar Singh knows how to describe the benefits of pink. If only more people agreed with him :). I doubt this town painting effort will reduce crime. It is more likely to make those who hate pink feel like committing crime. Graffiti comes to mind.

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What's the deal with the hat?

My blog has been lacking in photos recently, so I found this one in a draft post from months ago. I had planned to write about my graduation from university, which happened in August last year, but I never got around to it.



I graduated from a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science and Journalism. Before the 5pm ceremony, I enjoyed a party with family and friends. Thank you to everyone who came! The party I had at home was more special to me than the impersonal ceremony at the university. I knew only a couple of people at the ceremony.

Next year I plan to begin studying again, this time to gain a Diploma of Education (Primary School). I will do this through a Christian correspondance course from the Wesley Institute in Sydney. The practical component of the course will be done in local schools in Tasmania. The Dip Ed will enable me to earn more and have other advantages. I am not looking forward to burying myself in the books again! I am sure I will enjoy a lot of what I learn about, but study has a tendancy to dominate my thoughts even when I am away from it! There is always more work I could do on an assignment!

If I do graduate from the Diploma of Education as I hope to, perhaps I will go to the ceremony in Sydney and wear one of those hats again. Does anyone know the origin of this ridiculous looking hat?

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Travel quotes

I enjoyed these two quotes on travel.

"To travel is to discover what is wrong about other countries." Aldous Huxley (1894-1963).

Huxley's analysis of travel amuses me. Most of us go to other countries to admire their beauty, while Huxley goes to critique! I am sure it is impossible not to notice some negatives about every place you visit, but hopefully the beauty of other countries dominates in the memories.

"I never travel without my diary. One should always have something sensational to read." Oscar Wilde (1854-1900).

Like Wilde, I never travel without my diary. However, this is not because I find my own writing sensational :). I just love to catch moments to write down my impressions of what is going on at the time. I love the few pages I managed to write in Virginia, when I visited the USA. The friend I was travelling with thought it crazy, I think, that I would waste time writing in a diary. However, I am glad I did.

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A blessed heritage

I was blessed as I wrote my post on the beauty of ancestors, realising anew the heritage of love and faith that God has given me. Now I am blessed to be able to read the thoughts of others on this important topic. If you would also like to read more, please visit Dana at Principled Discovery. She has compiled a post about the Carnival of Beauty submissions, titled The Beauty of Ancestors.

Most people today have more respect for and interest in what celebrities are doing than in what their ancestors did. God's ways are different. Over and over again in the Old Testament, God tells his people to remember what he did for their ancestors. It is important to care about the heritage God has given us, to learn from the wisdom of those who have gone before us, and to aim to pass on a godly heritage to our descendants.



Those who have no concern for their ancestors will, by simple application of the same rule, have none for their descendants.
Richard Weaver.

Only the sheerest relativism insists that passing time renders unattainable one ideal while forcing upon us another.
Richard Weaver.


The following quotes are related to the thoughts I shared about motherhood in my post about my ancestors. Like any other worthwhile goal, motherhood costs.

“The best things in life invariably cost us something. We must sacrifice to attain them, to achieve them, to keep them, even to enjoy them.”
James Q. Wilson

“The world is indeed full of seemingly harmless little distractions; humorous and silly things; banal and trivial things; things that take the path of least resistance; things that come cheaply and easily. “Beware all such things”
Edward Lear

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Strong women

"Remind me of this with every decision, generations will reap what I sow. I can pass on a curse or a blessing to those I will never know. To my great-great-great granddaughter, live in peace."
Sara Groves

When I think of the beauty of our ancestors, this week’s Carnival of Beauty topic, I think of strong women. My great-great-grandmother Harriet moved to New Zealand from England with her husband and their ten children. My great-grandmother Ida raised six children with a husband known as a difficult man. My grandmother Thelma was the wife of a missionary to New Guinea. She cared for her three small children in a primitive hut. The only one of these women I have met is Thelma. She visited when I was a baby and died soon afterwards. Although I do not remember Harriet, Ida, or Thelma, their examples inspire me.

One of the main ways their examples inspire me is in the area of motherhood. In today’s society women are taught that they should and can pursue any career goal. Yet being a mother to many children is considered too difficult. What our ancestors did suddenly becomes too hard, while newer and trendier goals are seen as attainable. It is trendy to be “liberated” from the demands of serving a husband and children, in order to pursue independence and personal fulfilment. The work that women did for generations is looked down upon. A woman can do it all, it seems, except be happy to serve her husband and raise his children.

One of my heart’s desires is to have many children, whether biological or adopted. When I tell people this, they usually list all the reasons why it would be difficult, impossible, or foolish. If I took some people's words to heart, I would despair of the possibility of having any children. I know that I will not understand all the difficulties of having children unless I have my own. I have more experience with children than most single women I know, due to my work babysitting, tutoring for a large family, and teaching. However, I still cannot yet appreciate the demands of caring for children 24/7. I would face greater than average difficulties in being a mother, due to my chronic back pain.

However, the Bible teaches that it is a blessing to have many children (Ps 127, 128, and numerous other places). Investing my life in family would be one of the most worthwhile things I could do. I would face difficulties, but so do women who pursue goals that are less worthwhile. God may not choose to give me many children. I cannot know what my future holds, what my health will be like in five or ten years, how I will balance paid work and family life, or what my hypothetical future husband’s decisions with regard to children will be. However, I continue to believe that there is nothing wrong with hoping that God will bless me with children.

When I think of my ancestors, I am not only encouraged to believe my goal is a worthwhile one. I am also inspired to believe it is possible. My ancestors faced greater difficulties in motherhood than I do. They did not have the painkillers and medical interventions during birth that we have. They risked death to give life. My ancestors also endured moving to unfamiliar and difficult situations. Imagine moving from a familiar place where you had the support of family and friends, to a distant colony. This would be hard even with no children. Harriet achieved it with ten.

Harriet, Ida and Thelma were faithful wives and mothers in the face of their many difficulties. Modern women under the influence of feminism may read about their lives and consider them limited and oppressed. Yet the lives of these three women impart hope and faith to me. Hope that I can endure the difficulties of motherhood as they did. Hope that God will give me the grace to be faithful and loving to a less-than-perfect husband some day, just as they were faithful to their husbands. Hope that my great-great-granddaughter will look upon me as a strong woman like Harriet, Ida, and Thelma.

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Brother, let me be your servant

I enjoy singing this at my church, Crossroads Presbyterian. I know I do not live up to the words of the song, but they are an expression of what we are called to as the church.

Brother, let me be your servant
Let me be as Christ to you
Pray that I may have the grace
To let you be my servant, too

We are pilgrims on a journey
We are brothers on the road
We are here to help each other
Walk the mile and bear the load

I will hold the Christlight for you
In the night-time of your fear
I will hold my hand out to you
Speak the peace you long to hear

I will weep when you are weeping
When you laugh I’ll laugh with you
I will share your joy and sorrow
Till we’ve seen this journey through

When we sing to God in heaven
We shall find such harmony
Born of all we’ve known together
Of Christ’s love and agony

Brother, let me be your servant
Let me be as Christ to you
Pray that I may have the grace
To let you be my servant, too

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In response to popular demand

I received numerous complaints from the blog readers I know in "real life" that my blog colours were an unfortunate choice! So I decided to change them. I have decided it is best to have the background for the blog posts white. I can't promise not to turn the blog header pink at some future date, but at least my readers won't have to look at that colour the whole time they are reading. I hope my new colours are more satisfactory to those previously unsatisfied. I want to work out how to insert a picture into my blog header, but it may be beyond my skills! My new profile pic was taken last weekend when I went sight seeing with Dave.

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God rules Satan

Given the excited tone of my recent posts, I thought I'd better return to heavy, heavy, heavy lest you think my head is going to remain perpetually in the clouds.

A long quote from William Henry Green's book "The Argument of the Book of Job Unfolded" seemed perfect. I am thankful to my friend Phil for using this quote in one of his excellent sermons on Job during 2004, and later kindly passing the quote onto me. William Henry Green says of Satan:

"With all his hatred of God and spite against His people, he cannot emancipate himself from that sovereign control, which binds him to God's service. In all his blasphemous designs he is, in spite of himself, doing the work of God. In all his rebellious efforts to dethrone the Most High, he is actually paying Him submissive homage.

In moving heaven and earth to accomplish the perdition of those whom Christ has ransomed, he is actually fitting them for glory. Fiend as he is, full of bitterness and malignity, and intent on every form of mischief. However, he is constrained to be that which he most abhors, and is furthest from his intentions and desires. He remains a helpful auxiliary to the designs of grace.

Like the sons of God who assemble in the presence of the Infinite Majesty to receive the commissions of the King of kings, prompt to do his bidding and to execute his will, Satan is, though most reluctantly, and in a different sense from them, yet as really and as truly, in the case of those who, like Job, steadfastly resist his insidious assaults, a ministering spirit sent forth to minister to them who shall be heirs of salvation. "

Many people speak of Satan as though he can thwart God. This quote is a reminder that he can never thwart God's plans for us. He can only assist God to achieve his plans.

Phil has a blog: http://philninness.blogspot.com

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More party pics

On Friday night, 30 plus people crammed into my parent's living room to help me celebrate my birthday. I was blessed that they all made the effort to come out.

Here are Nick and James . . .


Talking and eating . . .


My sister Janelle, with some of the food pictured in the background. My sister is now 32 weeks pregnant with twins.


On my party invitation, I promised pictures of food and fun to those who missed out on coming. However, I forgot to photograph the food until it was almost too late . . .


We had cakes, ice cream, pies, jelly, and fruit salad. I didn't have much time to eat, with all the greetings and goodbyes that were going on. I was still eating my piece of cheese cake at 10pm!

Here I am with my friend Yvonne . . .


Here I am with Dave, after most people had left. Apparantly I look ditzy in this picture, but it is still my favourite picture of us so far.

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Handmade wrapping paper

I recently completed some wrapping paper I began a couple of weeks ago. I began it on one of my weekends at my parent's house, and then left it here while I went to the north of the state to work. Now I am on holiday (vacation in USA speak) at my parent's house, so I was able to complete it. Here is how I did it:

1. Kept blank white sheets of thin paper. I think these came as packaging in a parcel, but I don't remember exactly.

2. Stamped the sheets using craft stamps and a black ink pad.

3. Used my chalks to colour the stamps. If I'd had coloured ink pads it would have been quicker and easier as I would not have needed to go through this step. Step two would have been the last step.

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Just like primary school

At church on Sunday night I was surprised to see my friend Mike Jolly turning around in his seat and making faces at me. I have never been to primary school, because I was home schooled, but I knew primary school conduct when I saw it. "Sherrin's got a boyfriend ha ha ha". Mike had clearly read my Officially unsingle post. Since I was sitting next to Dave, the temptation to tease obviosuly overcame Mike. I made faces right back. The only thing to do, really. The next time Mike made faces at me I studiously looked ahead, concentrating on the sermon. I decided such immature conduct as Mike's was beneath me. Now Mike is teasing me on my own blog. Scandalous. Thankfully I don't mind, as he well knows.

While Mike may occasionally seem immature, I have actually seen him display a lot of maturity in recent times. Shortly after Mike made faces at me, there was an extended open prayer time in the church service. Mike said two great prayers.

Another way he demonstrated maturity was in his response to my concerns about his serious online dating relationship with Christine, which he wrote of
here. I was concerned about Mike giving up his whole heart and soul to someone he had never met, so I told him so. I figured that since I'd already expressed this concern to several friends, I'd better tell the man himself. Mike displayed maturity when he listened to what I said.

I am still somewhat concerned about Mike being so in love with someone he has never met, but I know that Mike is seeking God. Our Father in heaven is in the habit of caring for his people, including Mike and Christine. As they seek him, they will be able to overcome whatever obstacles they face. Even if the worst case scenario I have been known to contemplate does happen, they will be secure in God's love and he will enable them to grow closer to him. They meet next month, and I am looking forward to hearing about it!

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Birthday Party

I had a birthday party on Friday night. It was a fun time with lots of friends! Packing 30 people into my parent's living room was a challenge, but everyone seemed to have a good time.

Here I am with Sam Downes. The Downes family loves to tease me about how much I like pink, so their present was all pink! I think Sam, 15, must have been embarassed to be seen presenting such a gift.


Inside the pink bag, it was fun to discover pink sparkling grape juice. There was also a cute grey bear in a pink t-shirt, six light pink glasses, pink straws, and pink napkins. I am very glad I decided not to wear pink to my party!


Here are friends Ruth and Camille Peacock drinking the pink juice out of pink glasses on our pink couch!

Here are some of my presents. I was amazed at what I received from my kind friends over the past week. Three vases (all very different to each other), a Royal Albert plate with pink roses and a scalloped edge, patchwork in a frame, cups, a serving platter, soaps (including baby soap which is allegedly for my hope chest!), a muffin tin, roses from Dave, chocolates, a t-shirt, hair clips, and more.


I am planning to post more pictures soon. The fact that I have posted about presents first does not mean I consider them the most important thing about my birthday or my party :)! I just love the pictures of my pink gifts, so I had to put them up first!

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