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iSonto #32

There is so much to be thankful for even on the hardest days. Last Monday my thankfulness list at 2pm was  . . .

  • Nate singing along with "Angels we have heard on high" and wanting it again and again, playing the piano together. Nate trying to play and sing on the piano himself! 
  • Forbearance and Nate's peace when Mercy screamed and screamed 
  • A dishwasher!!
  • Learning to do chores together, and Nate's eagerness to help and thankfulness for being given tasks
  • Books bring moments of peace to Mercy's teething screaming, sitting together reading
  • Dave's faithfulness
  • A reminder from our character chart of the importance of decisiveness "the ability to finalise decisions based on God's will and ways", the opposite of double mindedness
  • Washing flapping dry in the sun
  • A clean bench
  • A friend's desire to pray together
  • A chance to make some contacts for Choices of Life pro-life schools program
Elnathan was the instigator in this bit of mischief, me thinks! It was funny to come out and see them both in the flower bed, happy together.



Natey's memory verse was "Let your light so shine before men that they see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven" Matthew 5:16.

Mercy was eager to help with feeding the chooks. We love it that these birds are like pets for the children but also productive.


From garden to tummies . . .

We enjoyed the last of our corn, and we were happy that it lasted into April. Corn is a source of dietary fiber, folate, and vitamin C.

 A book we enjoyed together was "Poppy Cats Love Parties". Mercy asks for it often saying "cake", which is one of the pictures in the book.


Encouragement, ideas and inspiration came from John Piper's Racial Harmony and Interracial Marriage, including this quote:

Christ does not call us to a prudent life, but to a God-centered, Christ-exalting, justice-advancing, counter-cultural, risk-taking life of love and courage. Will it be harder to be married to another race, and will it be harder for the kids? Maybe. Maybe not. But since when is that the way a Christian thinks? Life is hard. And the more you love the harder it gets.

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iSonto #29

This week we are thankful for . . .

* Two tiny people eager to help with the vacuuming.


 

* Picking a flower with Nate helped him not to be upset after a fall. These events are precious little reminders of God's care for us as expressed in the beauty around us, and how this helps us get through the troubles in our daily lives.

* Dave's presentation of his work in QLD went well.

* Frozen meals to help with the workload while he was away.

* Beautiful tomatoes to make into sauce.

Elnathan was happy with the gift his Daddy brought him from QLD, and has hardly parted with it since he received it. It is a van with a surf board on top.


 Natey's memory verse was Luke 6:31, "And just as you would have men do to you, you also do to them likewise".

Mercy was happy to have Daddy back again. She is saying Daddy now and often looked for him while he was away. Mercy has also begun to say 'Hi, Hi, Hi" and "Amen".

 


From garden to tummies . . .  

We are still enjoying the apples we harvested last month. It brings joy to be able to feed the children our own apples.

Encouragement, ideas and inspiration came from What the Duggars Can Teach You About Going With the Flow, as patience and flexibility are sorely needed around here! It was also helpful to read tips for keeping children in worship and reasons why this is beneficial.

 One funny moment was when I asked Nate what type of pet he had (in the context of a book we were reading). He replied "Mercy".
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The Centrality of the Home in Evangelism and Discipleship

I highly recommend Voddie Baucham's message "The Centrality of the Home in Evangelism and Discipleship". I have listened to it once on my own, and once with Dave.




Voddie Baucham is an African American who was saved out of a very troubled background. It is worth buying the CD just to hear his testimony of a transformed life! One of his major passions is apologetics. He also recognises the absolute necessity of training up generations to follow God. As a Southern Baptist, he challenges the church to consider the fact that current models of discipling young people are not effective and we need to return to biblical priorities.

One of the most striking facts from his talk is that conversions of young people have dropped since youth ministries have been extended. He rightly points out that a young people are meant to be discipled by their parents, and church programs can never take the place of this. He argues that they often aim to substitute for effective parenting. Unless the church returns to a biblical focus, their efforts will continue to produce little fruit. Parents need to be challenged to take up their responsibilities, and the church should not be attempting to fulfill those for them.

Another stiking impression that I gained from this CD is that in God's eyes disobedience to parents is as serious as sins such as homosexuality, and is just as much a sign of a depraved generation. Often Christians express horror at some sins, but ignore those that are rampant in the church. This must be repented of.

You can purchase this CD from vision forum, at this link. Vision Forum provides excellent service to Australia. Even though I always ask for standard shipment, the books and CDs I order usually arrive within a week or two via courier. I have never had any problems at all with receiving what I order, and the staff are always happy to assist and reply to email queries.

Voddie Baucham has recently released a new book, which you can read about in Crystal's post on her
week in reading. It is called Family Driven Faith and I am sure if would be an excellent way to extend the understandings gained from the CD "The Centrality of the Home in Evangelism and Discipleship". Crystal is living out the truths in this CD through reading the Bible to her very young children.

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Convictions

Beliefs about how to live, examined or unexamined, are inevitable.
People either choose to examine their beliefs and base them on the Bible,
or they make decisions on the basis of unexamined beliefs.


I have spoken with people who believe it is best not to have “convictions” about things related to the Christian life, such as schooling or courtship. They believe that these convictions lead to pride. Usually, they are referring specifically to more conservative convictions that can lead to attitudes of superiority toward those who choose a different course. For example, a family that home schools for biblical reasons may look down on those that choose to send their children to public schools. Or a family that believes that the Bible’s teaching on children means that it is a good idea to have lots of them may look down on those who choose to have two children.

I agree that convictions can be an excuse for pride. It is also true that some people think that more conservative = better and holier. However, my observation is that avoiding conservative views is not a guard against judgmental, prideful attitudes. In fact, “conservative” is usually quite radical. Therefore, many Christians are very judgemental about conservative views because they go against the status quo. For example, this morning I heard several people discussing large families. One woman announced that her friends had eight children because they thought “God told them to have a lot of children”. She went on to give the opinion that “God wants them to use their brains”. This woman made the assumption that it requires more thought to hold to the status quo of two or three children per family than it does to rethink those commonly held beliefs and make decisions that are frowned upon. She also displayed a contemptuous attitude to people who thought differently.

People are perhaps most in danger of being judgemental when they simply assume their views are right, without giving them much thought. They have never been through a process of considering the reasons for the views of others, so they cannot appreciate why others choose differently. Beliefs about how to live, examined or unexamined, are inevitable. People either choose to examine their beliefs and base them on the Bible, or they make decisions on the basis of unexamined beliefs. The solution to judgemental attitudes is not to abandon the process of thinking about topics and coming to convictions. Rather, it is to draw everything back into a full-orbed Christian worldview. If people truly understand God’s word, they will take seriously what it teaches about pride as well as about children or education.

If Christians have a sense of proportion, they will realise that an understanding of the gospel is the most important conviction we can have! Therefore, they will not elevate other matters to a level that is disproportionate. Douglas Wilson has said that if the first thing you want to know about someone is whether or not they agree with you about a certain issue, whether it be dress standards or rock music or natural birth, you are making that issue into an idol. The first thing we should want to know about another professing believer is whether or not they truly love Jesus Christ and have a passion for the gospel. The death and resurrection of Christ, which paid the penalty of our sin, is a humbling and awing reality. The internalisation of these truths, and the power of the Holy Spirit, is all that will be effective in putting pride to death and giving us a true love for other Christians. Thoughtlessness and following the Christian status quo will not help.

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Contentment in Christ

Hebrews 13:8 is a verse I've thought about over the past year or so:

"Let your conduct be without covetousness, be content with such things as you have, for he himself has said I will never leave you nor forsake you'"

We live in a culture that is built upon covetousness. Consumerism fuels our economy. Consumerism is a largely a product of covetousness. Advertisments constantly encourage people to be discontent with what they have, and to feel that they need more.

I have often considered what it means to be covetous. It cannot simply mean wanting things, because it is not wrong to desire beautiful or useful posessions. The verse does not say "never want anything". Forsaking covetousness does not mean forsaking all desire.

It does, however, mean that desires must not become sinful. They are sinful when they lead to discontentment and ungodly behaviour when they are not fulfilled.

God gives us the antidote to such idolatrous desires: himself. He is so satisfying, that concentrating upon him will help us to stop being covetous. He is enough. It might take me a life time to internalise that lesson.

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Dave's home

I enjoyed spending several days at Dave's home last weekend. It looks very run down on the outside, but it is quite cosy within! Dave has enjoyed renting this property because of its beautiful rural location. It also has very low rent, which is a bonus!


We spent some lovely time on the front porch, reading Lord of the Rings and discussing everything financial from how many toys children should be given to whether or not to take out a loan for a home and how much debt for a home would be too much. We really want to always maintain a grateful attitude for what God has given, rather than overcommiting outselves and then feeling stretched and complaining that we "can't afford" things.


I was blessed to stay with a friend of Dave's a few minutes drive away. She was an example of hospitality. When I arrived, there were lots of chocolates on the towel near my bed, as well as hand cream, soap and shower gel. This was a lovely surprise! She also took the trouble to find out that I liked fruit, and bought me some even though she doesn't like it. I love it when I stay at people's houses and gain more tips for hospitality through observing their actions!

I hope to post more pictures of my time in Melbourne soon.

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A new creation

One of the most amazing parts of the Christian faith is that those who are saved are “born again” or made “new creations” in Jesus Christ. I have recently been studying this through the book The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace and also through The Excellent Wife Study Guide. I hope to write more about these in another post, as I highly recommend them. One of the studies is about putting off old ways and putting on the new man (or in this case, woman).

As Christians, our old selves were crucified with Christ. This means we are no longer trapped in wrongdoing. Sin no longer has dominion over us. (See Romans 6:6,7, 14). We do not have to sin. While before conversion we were trapped in sin, now we can be free! We are to put off the old man, and put on the new man (Ephesians 4: 22, 24).

I find it an incredible blessing to think about the way God has re-created me. I was once captive to all kinds of characteristics of the old man: selfish anger, corrupt words, lying, fellowship with unfruitful deeds of darkness, filthiness, stealing, coarse joking, drunkenness, lust, malice, strife, filthy language, blasphemy and revelry (see Ephesians 4 & 5, Romans 13:12-14 and Colossians 3 for the Biblical references to these traits).

I have been completely set free from many of these, such as drunkenness. Some traits surface very occasionally, such as filthy language. Other traits of the old man, such as anxiety, are a continual struggle. While there is a moment at which I was born again, and my heart was changed from rebelling against God to loving and following him, putting off the old and putting on the new is a continual process.

The Excellent Wife book and study guide encourage readers to choose each day to put on what is good and put off what is not. For example, instead of being anxious we are to pray and give thanks (Philippians 4:6). Giving thanks is also the antidote to filthiness, foolish talking and coarse joking (Ephesians 5:4). It is wonderful that God doesn’t just tell us what to give up, he tells us what to embrace.

As I consider my “old man”, I am amazed at God’s grace to me in preparing me to be where I am now. God has brought both Dave and I in to his family, and enabled us to base our relationship upon him. As the “old man” it is doubtful that I would have wanted to marry. I was quite hostile to the idea. Now, due to the work of Christ’s death and resurrection, Dave and I are able to make this step. God's miraculous work in our lives to bring us to this point is a reminder to us that he will continue to work in our lives to help us and to glorify himself. It is a reminder that we can trust him.

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Starting the New Year

I am on the Vison Forum email list. Recently Doug Phillips sent out an email titled "How to end 2006" which is available on his blog at this link. I found this email very helpful. I am not planning to follow all the advice it contains this year, but I do want to incorporate more of these practices into my life.

As Mr. Phillips notes: "If we don’t take the time to chronicle the providences of God, we forget them. If we don’t take the time to say thank you to those who have invested in our lives, we actually cultivate a spirit of ingratitude in our own hearts. If we don’t stop and make sure that we have a spirit of forgiveness towards others we grow bitter, we lose the capacity to move victoriously into the future, and our prayers are hindered."

I particularly enjoyed what Doug Phillips wrote about expressing gratitude to those who have invested in our lives. I want to grow in this practice. Last year I held a Christmas party, and one of my aims was to express gratitude to the various people in my life. This year I did not have time to organise an event like this. However, it was a blessing to somehow find the time to write a card thanking the people I have worked with this year. I am very glad I was able to do this.

What Doug Phillips wrote about bitterness was also very helpful.

"Here is my recommendation: Think through every grief, minor and major, caused by others to you in the year 2006. Now add to the list any other personal offenses that continue to linger from past years. Write these down as bullets on a sheet of paper.

The first thing you will likely realize is just how many offenses are polluting your thought life, and, probably, your spirit. This is a sign of latent bitterness. Bitterness will kill you. It renders you completely ineffective.

Now prayerfully walk through the list — bullet, by bullet. With each offense remind yourself that the most despicable action taken against you by another, utterly (and infinitely) pales in comparison to the least of your offenses against the Lord Jesus Christ."

I will probably not have time to do this before I head off to South Africa, or while I am there. However, it sounds like a useful thing to do. I know my own tendancy to become hurt and to find it hard to let go. I am very aware of the dangers of bitterness and I pray that God will spare me this.

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Always poor?

The man who covets is always poor.
Claudian.

Our rich societies abound with people who imagine themselves to be poor. Many people who belong to the middle class complain about being poor when in reality they are richer than most people on earth. Even the poorest in Australia are often richer than most people who have ever lived.

Their perception that they are poor is a result of comparing themselves to those who are richer. Yet having food, clothing, shelter, and even a small amount of disposable income with which to buy consumer goods that are not essential for life is an indication of wealth in world and historical terms. Until last century the money to buy nonessential goods was out of the reach of most people. Now nearly everyone in Australia, even single mothers, can afford to buy many toys for their children. Most people have at least some furniture, and even the “poor” often own a car.

When people look at all the products available in the enormous number of stores, or think about the house they would like to have, they realise they cannot have everything they want and conclude that they are poor. No matter how much their situation improves, they always note the things they do not have. This perception is a result of covetousness, and it is an exercise in ingratitude for what God has given. With this mindset, people are always poor.

I pray that God will spare me this mindset, which I often catch myself displaying. Every time I say I am poor, I am expressing ingratitude for the abundance God has given.

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Greed and simplicity

Last week I read several blog posts related to money and lifestyle that I have been thinking about. Phil's wrote about those who will not inherit the kingdom. He shares a few thoughts on a passage that states that those who are guilty of various sins, including greed, will not inherit God's kingdom. I assume this is limited to those who continue in these sins unrepentantly.

Reading this made me think again about how I find greed difficult to define. Is it wanting more than we have or more than we need? Is it a willingnes to take money from the poor and oppress others in order to do so? Is it an excessive focus on money? If we are to discern who is part of the kingdom and who is not, we need to be able to accurately discern the habits and attitudes that indicate greed.

I am inclined to think that greed is an excessive focus on money and things, a constant emphasis on having more. It is fine to want things, even things we don't need. It is part of being human to love creativity and beauty. Things that are beautiful but not necessary for survival, like my nativity scene, are an expression of this God-given aspect of our humanity. However, all our desires for such things must be put in their proper place. I knew I wanted a nativity scene, but I did not make it the focus of my life and feel constantly grumpy because I didn't have one!

I enjoyed Beth's recent post on money too, Living Richly. Beth asks the questions: "Is it okay to be a Christian and be wealthy? Or is this just a modern American idea, where materialism has wrongly been infused into the Christian culture?" Beth presents a balanced approach to this issue, explaining the dangers of wealth as well as the fact that it is not wrong to be wealthy.

I also enjoyed following the links Ashley provided on her post on The Simple Life. When I have time to read more, I want to learn more about living simply. I especially enjoyed Sallie's article Simplifying Choices. Sallie begins her article with these thoughts: "When someone becomes convinced that they need to simplify their life, it can be overwhelming. There are usually a lot of areas out of whack whether they be financial, time commitments, relationships, work requirements, material possessions, etc. In each of these areas you have to do some serious evaluating. More of what? Less of what? What comes first? What can wait? How do I do this without driving myself and my family crazy? " Sallie encourages readers to consider what glorifies God, what fits with their family, and what will enable them to fulfill God's best for their lives.

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Fighting fear

I enjoyed reading Kimi's Update on my bed rest and a few thoughts yesterday. I have been praying for Kimi (and several other people I read about on blogs) as they come to mind. I appreciated Kimi's sense of humour, humility, and faith in this post. I appreciated Kimi's thoughts on fighting fear. I am poor at fighting fear. It is great when people don't make excuses for their fears, but instead confront and repent of them. What a good example! Here is what Kimi wrote on fear:

Anyway, it has been a little difficult having so much "worry time" available. With both of my pregnancies being more stressful, I am always having to fight fears as I wait for the "next blow". My mother is being called over all the time so I can ask her questions on whether she thinks there is a problem or not. But while I was at the hospital, God did give me some wonderful verses to comfort me. Mind you, I certainly don't always turn to these as I should with my fears. But when I remember to, they are of great comfort.

Psalm 34:4 "I sought the Lord, and he answered me and delivered me from all my fears."

Psalm 46: 1-2 "God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear......"

(Notice that we are not promised no trouble in this verse, but promised that God will be our strength and refuge when we are in troubling times)

God also spoke to me through the story of the disciples with Jesus in the stormy sea. The disciples were very frightened and scared as Jesus slept. After Jesus rebuked the storm, he turned to his disciples and said "Why are you so afraid? Have you still no faith?" Mark 4:40 I realized that when I was very afraid, it was because of a lack of faith in the goodness of God and not having enough faith in His promises. I also realized that I always thought it was silly for the disciples to be so afraid when they had Christ with them. But don't I have Christ with me? Did he not promise that he would be with us always, even to the end of the age?

God is good and he continues to work in my sinful, fearful heart.

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What to say?

I am back in the land of few friends and no personal computer, otherwise known as Launceston. So yesterday I dropped into the online access centre to book myself a couple of hours on Friday. The person who booked me into the computer was apologising for not remembering my name, and told me he was very tired. He said "I do the tarot card readings. The lady this morning didn't want to use the tarot cards, so I had to rely on my clairvoyants and boy am I exhausted." I said "Oh no, that is no good, that is no good at all" or something of that nature. I was thinking of the clairvoyants, not the exhaustion! I was grasping for somthing more intelligent and spiritual to say, but nothing came. So I wandered out the door feeling a little stunned! What do you think you would have said? "Repent and believe in the living God, do not call upon dangerous demons", or something a little more innovative? All I could think of afterwards was that I could have spoken with him about my limited experience with witchcraft and its dangers, and how God can set you free, but it sounds like he is into it much more than I ever was.

This experience reminded me of how easy it is to meet non-Christians simply though being involved in community groups or activities. For example, you could join a garden club or a patchwork class. These groups are usually full of people who don't know God. I could volunteer to help run the online access centre, but I don't think I'd have the time or be reliable enough with all my travelling to and from Hobart. However, I always want to keep in mind that joining in with community activities is a great way to meet people if you have time. You can often combine doing something you enjoy with reaching out to the lost. A happy mix, I think.

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Gossip

Scott Brown Online recently contained a great post on gossip. I am certainly no perfect woman when it comes to gossip, but I want to improve. Here is the start of the post:

Wilmington NC, pastor Devin Kerns shared with me one of his criteria for church membership - "no one can join this church without hearing my sermon on gossip."

He informs new members that he has a zero tolerance policy on gossip and evil speaking. He says, "if you commit adultery in our church you get four chances to repent according to Matt 18, but if you gossip, you are rejected after the first and second admonition."

He also guarantees his church members this: "No one will say anything bad about you behind your back without severe repurcussions."

He quotes Titus 3:10 which says, "Reject a divisive man after the first and second admonition, knowing that such a person is warped and sinning, being self-condemned."

The post goes on to show the pictures this pastor uses in his gossip sermon. It is worth checking out!

Many years after Princess Charles and Princess Diana's divorce, I still occasionally get into conversations about who was more at fault. I hate these conversations, and try to get out quickly! The lady I board with is in the habit of reading a certain popular women's magazine, with the resultant conversational topics.

Groping for some clarity in ithe midst of this conversation, I finally arrived at some.
"Well", I said, "it is all gossip anyway. If it is true it is gossip, and if it is not true it is slander, either way it is wrong and we shouldn't read it."

In hindsight, that was rather less than tactful. Although I'd told her I didn't read the Women's Weekly she had placed a whole stack of them on a table in my room. They had been there for about two months, long enough to notice that the front covers still contained stories about Princess Diana even though she's been dead for nearly 10 years. Will they never let her rest in peace? Soon after this little conversation, the magazines were gone.

In hindsight, perhaps should have tried extra tact, it did not occur to me for about two weeks that my comments could have been cons dered rude :). People do tell me I'm blunt.

However, the Bible is much blunter about gossip than I am. We commonly over look gossip, or joke about it, but the Bible presents it as serious sin. Yet we all know how often we indulge in it, without even a guilty conscience. Gossip magazines are the least of my trouble. I don't even want to look at them. They make me feel sick and depressed. It is easy to avoid gossip I don't like.

Another example of conversations I don't like is whether or not ___ planned to have their latest baby. People raise all kinds of things like "surely they didn't plan to have them so close together", or "they've only been married a year!", or "they've already got 4 kids". Personally, I'm not interested in whether or not ____ planned baby _____. Any baby is a good baby, in my way of thinking! I find it easy to say "I really don't think it is any of our business".

The everyday conversations where I want to know about what the person is talking about are much harder to choose to exit. Things like why ____ has an alcohol abuse problem, or why ____ (someone we know) got divorced, why a certain boyfriend and girlfriend broke up when they seemed so suited, or why ___ child is so badly behaved are much harder to get out of. I often want to know the answers to those things.

I once listened to a tape series on speech by Greg Bahnson (spelling?). It was excellent. One thing he said was that "if you are not part of the problem, or part of the solution, don't talk about it!". The problem is putting his advice into action!

Do any of you have tips on how to avoid gossip, or change the topic tactfully when gossip comes into the conversation?

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Humility

"Little do my enemies think what service they do me.
If they did, one would think, out of spite
they would desist from opposing me."
George Whitefield


In his book Forgotten Founding Father: The Heroic Legacy of George Whitefield, Stephen Mansfield documented many of the great evangelist's character traits. He wrote that "George Whitefield was the most famous man of his day . . . and among the most hated. In a crude and spiteful age, the barrage against him was particularly venomous. He was accused of all the usual misdeeds with money, women and fame. But there was so much more. The strange squinting of the eyes that childhood measles left him caused the hostile press to call him "Dr Squintum." There was even a play by that name, written to expose him to a jeering public. If he gained weight, he was a glutton. If he bought property for an orphanage, he was selfishly building an estate for himself." Attacks came from Christians as well as opponents of the gospel. Mansfield wrote that "For some believers, a man cannot simply be wrong about a few things; he must be evil, possibly even controlled by a spirit."

The criticism was extraordinary, but so was Whitefield's response. He "had acquired that condition of soul for which critism becomes an ennobling force. He had learned that criticism is like pain in the human body, giving needed information for a healthy change. One can receive it as a blow and angrily nurse the wound. Or, one can regard the words as an eagle does a gust of wind - as a force upon which to fly still higher." Whitefield wrote to one critic: "I thank you heartily. May God reward you for watching over my soul; and as to what my enemies say against me, I know worse things of myself than they can say concerning me!" Due to this attitude, the criticsm Whitefield received served him. He did not become crushed or bitter. He courageously faced his faults.

I was inspired to post these facts about Whitefield's life after reading Kimi Harris' post Avoiding the way of a fool: inviting correction. Kimi wrote: "I need to recognize that others are going to see sinful tendencies that I am unaware of. If I want to grow in grace, God will use those around to help me, if I encourage and cultivate feedback from them. It is only pride that makes me feel that I can see all of my sin and defeat it without the help of others." This is a challenge to me, and to most Christians. I cringe from hearing others address my faults. I need to keep asking God to help me to be open to receiving correction.

I was also impressed with what Kimi said about a church she visited: "they have created a culture of speaking into each other’s lives. They thank each other for every service rendered, and they speak up when they notice something amiss in each other. Their church culture made correction and feedback more of a daily occurrence, like it should be. This also seemed to help with the tendency to overact to another’s input." This is the opposite of many churches, where to question the church leaders is seen as a terrible thing to do. I was once a part of a pro-life organisation where questioning the leader (a Catholic priest) was seen as highly offensive. Questioning anything the organisation did, or advocating new activities, was seen as an attack on him. The lack of freedom to question and explore options was stifling the effectiveness of the organisation. Christians should never disrespect their leaders. However, as Mansfield notes in relation to Whitefield's attitude to marriage, those who seek to honour leaders do them no disservice by acknowledging their mistakes.

To avoid the stifling effects of avoiding correction, the best we can do is to follow Whitefield's example of humility. He often prayed for humility, and God answered his prayers. When he was on a dangerous sea voyage, the ship seemed about to sink. Some aboard questioned "What Jonah have we here on board?" A voice rang out saying "I am he". All turned toward the voice and saw George Whitefield, the preacher who had led thousands into God's Kingdom. Mansfield wrote that this "was no act . . . The reality is that Goerge Whitefield truly saw himself as small in his own eyes and this is perhaps the best explanation for the astonishing spiritual power that distinguished his life." Such an accurate perpective on ourselves can lead to humility before others, a desire to receive from what God is showing others, and even an ability to accept their correction with courage and thankfulness.


All quotes on Whitefield are taken from Mansfield's book, pages 143 - 145, 191 - 193, and 212. Forgotten Founding Father: The Heroic Legacy of George Whitefield is published by Highland Books as part of the Leaders in Action series.

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Memories of Friends

“Those we hold dear never truly leave us. They live on in the kindnesses they showed, the comfort they shared, and the love they brought into our lives” - Isabel Norton. When I first came across this quote I thought of my dear Grandad. A sincere Christian, former missionary to New Guinea, carpenter, and ardent creationist, Grandad was a big part of our lives for many years. He would often come to our house to work in our large garden, or on renovations. In his last years he lived on our property in a caravan. When he died during 2002 he left memories everywhere, in the things he had made. The extensions to rooms in our house, the ornate three storey dolls house, the bulbs planted near his caravan, the hope chest with a star on it made out of different woods, and the coffee table in our living room.

Later on I thought of those who have left for other reasons, even deliberately. I took out a watercolour picture that had been stored away for years. A dear friend gave it to me. We were both homeschooled, and spent time together for many years. We loved to stay over at one another’s homes, and shared interests like old novels and crafts. A few months before my eighteenth birthday, she was the driver in a car accident where I sustained a crush fracture to my spine. The constant pain from this, even close to seven years later, has changed my life dramatically. My friend struggled to cope with her role in the accident. Her response was to withdraw. She wrongly thought we would not want her in our lives anymore. Shortly after the accident, I was converted to Christ. My friend continued to rebel. We grew even further apart. I had not only lost a measure of my body’s freedom. I had lost a dear friend. The injury was an accident. The loss of friendship was a choice, and it seemed harder to forgive. Tears still come to my eyes as I write about that time.

When friends fail, there is a choice. Become bitter, or learn to remember love, comfort and kindness. A choice for bitterness leads to jaded memories. Twenty years after hurts occurred, many people still pour out the slights, harsh words, and broken promises. Memories of joy and blessings have faded away. With God’s help to forgive and heal, the opposite can be true. Gratitude for what the person gave for a season can be focused upon. The sharing of hearts and lives was precious. The relationship was not pointless. Focusing on the good imparts the courage to continue to invest in friendships and trust people. If hurt results, and even the end of the friendship, there will be good memories left as well. So I keep on my bookshelf a small watercolour picture of a woman running across green grass beside a pond. She is wearing a long blue dress, with a straw hat falling off behind her. I look at it and remember the many people who were once my friends. This, I hope, is not mere sentimentality. It is gratitude for memories of kindness and comfort, for memories of friends.

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Good Reasons to Hesitate


On Friday 24 February, I wrote about how I question my motives for not speaking when truth is at stake. Two of my Bible memory verses give good reasons for hesitating to speak:


The beginning of strife is like releasing water;
Therefore stop contention before a quarrel starts.
Proverbs 17:14

Do all things without complaining and disputing, that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world
Philippians 2: 14-15

Some disputes are pointless and fruitless. We are called to avoid those. There is a difference between stating the truth, and pushing the truth so that you end up in an argument.

Sometimes in discussions with Christians I am coming from such a different perspective or knowledge base to those I am trying to communicate with, it feels like fog surrounds us. This is especially so in areas like politics, education, or entertainment. This “fog” can lead to frustration, distress, or anger in my heart. I do not want to discuss issues like this unless I can do so peacefully and without sin.

Another reason I hesitate is that in the past I have held views strongly, and spoken them, later to have the Holy Spirit show me through God’s word that I was wrong. Before I speak strongly, I need to be sure truth not error is being presented.

I also recognise how long it has taken me to come to some of the positions I now hold. I cannot expect others to instantly agree with ideas that used to shock me! Often one small statement is enough to get someone thinking. People progress in ideas and beliefs through small and gradual steps.


Charlotte Mason expresses something of what I am saying:

That which has become the dominant idea of one person’s life, if it be launched suddenly at another, coveys no very great depth of weight of meaning to the second person – he wants to get at it by degrees, to see the steps by which the other has travelled.

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Make them life, Jesus

A wholesome tongue is a tree of life,
But perverseness in it breaks the spirit.
Proverbs 15:4

What a heart warming image the first line presents. A tongue that is wholesome builds up and causes people to flourish. This passage is an inspiration to seek God, to pray that he will make my words life-giving.

In contrast, the second line presents a tragic image. A broken spirit, a crushed heart, is something we can all identify with. There have been many times when a few words have broken my spirit. They have festered and hurt long after they were spoken. The saying "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me" is not biblical. Words can hurt more than stones.

This verse is so meaningful to me that when I did a poetry writing unit at university, I tried to write a poem on it. The title was "Make them life, Jesus."My tongue is evil and difficult to control, as James points out. I cannot even control it without God's help.

Here at the school I pray this even more. Teaching is so much about communication, speech. The children are always doing things that are irritating, or need correction. They often struggle with school work, and I need to explain their mistakes whilst encouraging them. If their spirits are broken they will not even want to learn. In the midst of all this, I often pray about my words: "Make them life, Jesus."

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When to Speak?

There are many situations, and many people, who confront me with ideas or actions that I do not agree with. Recently I have been considering the questions such as: "When is it wrong to be silent?", "What are good motives for remaining silent?", "When is it my duty to speak?". Those who know me may find it hard to believe that I often choose not to speak up, but it is true nonetheless!

Two areas I always try to speak on, if confronted with them, are the gospel and abortion. I consider it a duty of love, or a moral imperitive, to speak truth on these topics. The eternal souls of people, and the lives of the innocent, are more imporant than my comfort zones. Sometimes I have talked too much about life issues like abortion. There is a balance here, which I pray God will help me achieve. It is harmful to go on about things too much, but if someone does raise the topic it is important to speak truth.

In many other areas, I wonder if my failure to speak is simply selfishness. When an opponent of predestination asked me if I believed it, I told him he'd have to work it out for himself. Was this a choice not to get into a bothersome conflict, considering only my own peace of mind? Or was it a realisation that considering my own experience of vehmently rejecting predestination and then embracing it as Biblical, this topic is best left up to the work of the Holy Spirit?

When a lady declared to me that a wife's duty to submit to her husband was not a biblical teaching, was my choice to simply say "I don't hold that view, but I understand your perspective" diplomatic or a failure to defend God's word? Perhaps it was both.

There are matters that are less important than others, and we do need to choose our battles. The Scriptures have nothing positive to say about quarrelsome people. Yet our motives for avoiding battle need to be considered. Personal comfort is not a worthy one.

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Choosing to Build

I wrote part of this post a couple of weeks ago, but did not get around to putting it up. It seems even more relevant now as I work out what is important with my busier schedule.

These are the texts my thoughts stem from:

Proverbs 25:28 “He who has no rule over his own spirit, is like a city broken down without walls.”

Proberbs 14:1 "The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands."

Our pervasive media can be a temptation. Some aspects do not tempt me at all. I do not want to watch TV, and rarely sit down and watch it. Rarely = about half an hour every two weeks at most! Similarly with movies. I went to Narnia a couple of weeks ago, and loved it, but usually I have no desire to go to movies or hire them.

The Internet is my temptation. There is so much that is good on here, and you have choice and interaction. The information I have been exposed to has helped me a lot. I love reading blogs and researching. I also have heaps of weblog posts running around in my head that I would love to write. I don’t think it would be “wrong” to spend more time online.

The reason I limit myself is simple: I want to be a wise woman, and build my house. Aunty Val, a great-great-grandmother of two, is waiting to be picked up for lunch. My Teacher’s Aide study needs to be done. My niece needs to be spoken with, cuddled, and taken for a walk. A mentally ill church member who struggles with housework needs her washing done. I need to take care of my back problem with exercise and rest. Friends are coming for dinner. Outside cyberspace the sun is shining, and my garden is growing.

As R.C. Sproul Jr. wrote in Every Thought Captive, May/June 2005, "It's true enough that the Bible doesn't say you can't listen to talk radio. It doesn't say you can't read or write blogs. It doesn't say, as far as I know, you can't read magazines from fly-over territory. And as such, I'm not saying it either. But just as we encourage folks to have lots of children not ultimately because we think contraception is a sin, but because we think children are a blessing, so here the issue isn't whether you're allowed to drink in this or that from the broader culture. The question is, aren't there better things to do with your time? And by that I don't merely mean more work-y kind of things. I mean more joyful kind of things."

If I shirk small duties and joys in the "real" world, in order to purue online interests, I am like the foolish woman pictured in Proverbs 14:1 who pulls down her own house. There are few more graphic pictures of opposing your own wellbeing, and that of the people God has placed in your life.

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True Holiness is Shown in Small Things

I have begun reading J. C. Ryle’s book Holiness again. I read to chapter four early last year, and I am starting at the beginning again now. Even the preface, written in 1879, contains a lot to think upon. J. C. Ryle wrote that “holiness” meetings that excite religious feelings are only of value if they make people “better husbands and wives and fathers and mothers and sons and daughters and brothers and sisters”.

He questioned the value of these meetings.

“Do those who attend these meetings become more holy, meek, unselfish, kind, good-tempered, self-denying and Christ-like at home? Do they become more content with their position in life, and more free from restless craving after something different from that which God has given them?”

“Above all, do they grow in charity, and especially in charity toward those who do not agree with them in every jot and tittle of their religion?”

J.C. Ryle felt that the meetings did “not promote private home religion, private Bible reading, private prayer, private usefulness and private walking with God.” After all, “it is far easier to be a Christian among singing, praying, sympathising Christians in a public room, than to be a consistent Christian in a quiet, retired, out-of-the-way, uncongenial home.”

These reflections seem all the more pertinent in 2006. Over and over again, the Bible tells us that devotion to Christ is to be evidenced in love for others. It is to be exhibited moment by moment, day after day, year after year. Our religion should show itself in how we speak to a child, our response when a family member asks us to do something, and our tolerance toward Christians who differ with us on non-essential matters. Such moment-to-moment devotion is usually less than exciting, but it results in good fruit. It can only come from always seeking our Holy Sanctifier with a humble heart.

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